Tip 1
Set Expectations
When young adults move out, they are embarking on a new chapter in their lives. Help them with this transition by setting clear expectations and reminding them of their responsibilities.
Examples
- “We trust that you will continue to make responsible choices.”
- “As a parent, we are always here to support you.”
Tip 2
Build Trust
Creating this connection relies heavily on the trust you’ve already established. If they’ve earned trust, take the time to acknowledge their choices, and encourage them to continue on the right path.
Examples
- “We have seen you make good choices and trust you to continue.”
- “You have shown us that you can manage and solve problems. You have good judgment.”
- “You have learned through trial and error and continue to grow through your experiences.”
Tip 3
Stay Connected
When children live at home, conversations are easy. However, when they move out, the challenge becomes staying connected.
To keep connections strong, establish routines that respect their independence even when they’ve moved out of the house.
Suggestions
- “Texting and sharing information, pictures, and videos are great ways to stay connected with young adults.”
- “Sending cards and goodie boxes are great ways to stay connected and let children know how much you care.”
Tip 4
Stay On Track
When choosing to drink at home, model responsible behaviors, and stay consistent with the previous rules you've set in place.
While adjusting to this new transition, consider asking these questions to keep the conversation going:
Examples
- “What are your thoughts about underage drinking?”
- “Has your opinion changed about the topic now that you've moved out?”
- “What would you do if your friends invited you to a party where you knew there would be drinking?”