Peer pressure is ever-present in your teens’ lives, and comes in many forms. It’s not always bad, but when it is, it can force your teens to make in-the-moment decisions that affect their well-being.

Fortunately, your teens can develop two attributes that will help them navigate peer pressure situations -- having the confidence to say no and thinking and acting independently.

Whether they face peer pressure in school, during athletic activities or among peers in social settings, use these tips to help your teens develop their independence and confidence:

1.    Give your teens opportunities to build independence.

Help your teens practice doing things on their own. When you shop with your teens, have them ask a store employee for directions. When you give them new chores, don’t jump in right away to help if they struggle to succeed. And when you give them the freedom to make their own decisions, understand that they're learning experiences, even if you don't agree with what they ultimately decide to do.These scenarios prepare them to be independent, but allow them to ask for help if needed.

2.    Show them what confidence looks like.

Confidence is a muscle; the more you use it the stronger it gets.  Show them how to work through challenges and approach new adventures. When you experience triumphant moments, share your accomplishments - and feelings - with them. As their role model, it’s important for them to hear you say things like, “I wasn’t sure I could do this, but I did it!” Collectively, these moments give them a positive example of strength and confidence that they can model in peer situations.

3.    Prepare your teens for potential situations with peers.

Ask your teens, “what would you do if someone offered you alcohol?” “If you and your friends were in an unsafe situation, how would you handle it?” “What if your friends’ parents allow alcohol at the party?” These are examples of open-ended questions that get your teens to think out loud, anticipate any obstacles, and practice saying no when faced with peer pressure situations.

The topic of peer pressure isn’t limited to one discussion -it’s ongoing. If you notice any changes in their behaviors or friend groups, use discussion as a way to check-in with them.

For more tips on how to help your teens combat peer pressure, visit theCoaching page.